tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81749142166756154202024-02-08T01:16:28.417-05:00How to Grow a GrastySandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.comBlogger102125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-17396013622191047492015-08-06T00:50:00.001-04:002015-08-06T00:50:30.712-04:00Why I'm Ditching My SmartphoneI'm one of those people who thinks its slightly irritating when my friends aren't on Facebook. How am I supposed to get in touch with you, for Pete's sake?! And if you don't have a Smartphone, I may have wondered whether it was because you are super money conscious, or just pretentious. But now I've decided to get rid of my Smartphone, which by default, will mean that I'm connected to social media a LOT less. It's kind of sad. I adore Facebook and I really like Instagram.<br />
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I didn't make this decision to avoid drama. I decided a couple of years ago to keep my feed drama and stress free. For me this means if you are always posting about politics or social issues without compassion and love, you are likely to be unfollowed. I try not to get my news through memes and headlines. I also don't play the comparison game. It's just not my personality. I love seeing people post about their families' accomplishments and birthday love. For these reasons I will still keep up with my social media as I am able.<br />
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The real reason I've decided to ditch my Smartphone is because its a distraction. It's a timesuck. And this one is hard to admit: once in a while, I've endangered lives by using it while driving.<br />
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Just over two months ago, we moved into out to the boonies and into a camper. Going into it, we knew money would be tight and we didn't know if our Smartphones would have good coverage. We debated about getting rid of them. I was excited about the prospect. The simplicity of our new life was a huge benefit to our move. I wanted to be more present with my family, and get back to reading actual books. My phone has always been a distraction from those things. I knew that self-control was not my forte and I thought without the distraction of the Internet at my fingertips I would be able to do those things.<br />
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Ultimately, we decided to keep our phones for the time being. The fact that we would need GPS in a new place was the biggest factor. I was also nervous about being isolated in a new rural town where I didn't know anyone. I didn't want the lack of Internet access to keep me from finding connection in real life. So far, most of my new friends have come to me because of Facebook groups and events. So for the last two months, having Internet access has been a real help.<br />
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BUT...our phones don't work very well out here on this plot of land. I spend a good bit of time just trying to use the Internet on my phone instead of actually using it. Our landlady has graciously allowed us to use her wi-fi, and while its weak, it does give us Internet access on our laptop. Our phones almost never pick it up. So we do actually have Internet, and we did not expect that at all.<br />
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Life has been much slower out here. I have read more books. Joshua and I have played games together in the evening, which we haven't done since we first got married. I've read to the kids much more than I was able to during the frantic months before we moved. I've even played my guitar and written on my blog! However, my phone has continued to be at least as much of a distraction as it was before. When I'm not on it, it's often because the signal is bad. When we go places as a family, I'm busy checking for 4G signal, and if I have it, I'm busy looking things up, paying a bill, responding to messages, etc. Most of these are things I feel I NEED to do. Or just catching up on Facebook and posting pics to Instagram. But I actually DO have other options. Not having a Smartphone will allow me to be more intentional with my time by making lists of the Internet-based tasks I need to do and accomplish them in one sitting at the library. Or on our home computer if the signal happens to be strong enough.<br />
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And of course, it is totally unacceptable to be using my phone while driving. Especially with my precious children in the car. I know I am not alone in having done this. I often am unable to get my GPS signal to pick up until I am closer to town. If I'm going somewhere new, sometimes I'm trying to get my GPS going just to know where I'm going. Yes, I should pull over, but I usually don't. So this is actually a big motivating factor for me to ditch my phone.<br />
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Ultimately, for me it is about being present and enjoying my husband and children in the moment. Instead of being distracted for five minutes that turns into an hour on Facebook, maybe I will spend more time enjoying the scenery while I'm riding in the car. Really BEING there while putting my kids to bed, singing them songs or answering their questions, taking in their sweet hugs and kisses. Reading books that I've wanted to read for years. Just be still enough to hear my own thoughts, process the events of my life, and listen to the Holy Spirit speaking to me and allowed the Lord to teach me.<br />
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I know myself well enough - I will always find these things a challenge. It's part of my personality. But I certainly don't need this big temptation always at my fingertips. It's been running my life, and now I'm taking charge.Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-8217441198111100372015-06-28T01:29:00.002-04:002015-06-28T01:31:02.442-04:00One Big Camping Trip<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Joshua occasionally reminds me that I really should be blogging. And he's right. Some would say we have an interesting life. So here's the moment when I again step out of silence and maybe post once in a while. Because well, we live in an RV now. And who gets to say that?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Someday soon I'll post a picture of our little set up. But right now there is a bunch of crap in front of it waiting to be unpacked and it doesn't look as idyllic as I want people to think our life is. So I'd better hold off. No sense ruining the illusion.</span><br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEjAsmSlR-VHxFB5Z28RHeLLXRSDEtOFIh5-WXTVi7GzvpTBqBs-Sqg4CPP1m-10YC5Bh8Q4rQqXwOvWkwbl6tnFkasEwTNYe-1e-AWnmGxSM987Q4KkgdZAw7nTpKtjaTqkeprn8SwDsG/s1600/20150617_094545.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEjAsmSlR-VHxFB5Z28RHeLLXRSDEtOFIh5-WXTVi7GzvpTBqBs-Sqg4CPP1m-10YC5Bh8Q4rQqXwOvWkwbl6tnFkasEwTNYe-1e-AWnmGxSM987Q4KkgdZAw7nTpKtjaTqkeprn8SwDsG/s320/20150617_094545.jpg" width="180" /></span></a><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">For now I'll say, we live in 31 foot Fleetwood Prowler. My husband Joshua the Park Ranger, our two kids Malachi and Mimi, our dog Rose, and me. We don't take this ol' girl anywhere; we stay put in our little town in Virginia.</span><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilUxQmrEXQZyExoVAVztvbJ15KY50i6YqU-9783Pm30bKFSDKS9XIptqm-k0MHSjp7q4Zc_DK9EljAuCxYmQGYyHonj6-uO-NbX4Idm8rp3JjDiNcXMf8Ld6ZuqyE8dNEDQN0htIku8Tj4/s1600/20150620_181551.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"></span></a><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I'd like to say we live in an RV out of idealism. And in a sense it is. I have had a lot of dreams over the years, and anything that's hipster-chic, like the tiny house movement, I've dreamed about doing. Joshua sometimes dreams along, and sometimes humors me. I won't tell you which is which.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">First there was the intentional community dream. This one involved selling all we had, serving and living among the poor, and only having one pair of pants. Laundry day was challenging in this dream.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">There was the farm dream. That one lasted until we became friends with some farm people and realized you can't really do anything because you are always farming. And you can't really go anywhere because...animalz. That seemed like a drag. Plus I don't like manual labor.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And there was a house boat dream. A Peace Corps dream. The Dorm Parent dream. The Teaching English in Korea dream (thanks for that Ken and Krystin). I could go on.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Last but not least...the RV dream. Similar to the houseboat dream, but this one involved travel around these great United States, and probably Canada and Mexico too. And hanging out with hippies. Well, that is in all of my dreams. Because in my dreams I am a hippie.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">But the REAL RV dream, the one that's happening, is not as exciting as all that. It involves a new job with less pay, a desire for a stay-at-home parent, and a new town with expensive housing. It involves a plan to homeschool, with kindergarten on the horizon. None of it added up without some finagling. So we finagled ourselves into a travel trailer, and onto some land. I use the word "land" loosely, as its just an acre or two that we share with our landlord. Between her and us and all our stuff, it looks like we're having a yard sale every day. Truth be told, we had very little to do with the whole arrangement. We contributed some ideals, a willingness to do something crazy, and a very great need. The God of the universe, who knows our names and every need, orchestrated the rest.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Anyway, that's a snippet about how we got here. Hopefully I'll make time to write about it more, because there are some beautiful things that have happened, and I'd love to share them. Without further editing or ado, I'll hit the Publish button, otherwise this bit of work will join the ranks of my already lengthy Drafts section.</span>Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-5090770424542537772015-06-27T01:01:00.000-04:002015-06-28T08:38:44.535-04:00Some Honesty About Foster Parenting<span style="color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif;">Last year I shared <a href="http://growinggrastys.blogspot.com/2014/04/a-story-of-renewal.html">this testimony</a> that shared with our church at our church's 2013 Annual Thanksgiving Feast. I shared at the same event in 2014, mostly about our experiences with foster care and how the Lord used it in my life. I wanted to post it here as well.</span><br />
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First of all, I'm so thankful for our foster care journey. Let me preface by saying, if you in part have ever had an inkling toward fostering, or if you do after hearing this, please talk to me. Also, there are numerous practical ways you can support foster parents. We have been so grateful for the prayer, emotional and even some financial support we've received from a number of people here.</div>
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So here goes. After 9 months of preparation, August 1, we became foster parents. Our family grew from 2, to 4 children, ages 4, 2, 19 months and 16 months. It was crazy. The first few weeks were a blur. Just constant diaper changes and sleepless nights. Pulling children off of each other as they handled their anger and confusion the only way they knew how.</div>
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At first, it was easy to love. They're little kids. They are adorable, sweet, and affectionate. But as the newness wore off, toddlers were still toddlers, with all their curiosity and testing of boundaries. And there were signs of trauma that were not only difficult to deal with emotionally, they were frustrating to live with on a day to day basis. It is hard.</div>
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Before we went into this, I knew there would be challenges, but its different when you start living it, and feeling it. Fostering is a very lonely road. It is very isolating when so many of your interactions include the words "I admire you." or "I could never do what you are doing." Or "I don't know how you do it." I'll tell you how:</div>
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I hoped that would be showing our kids this shining example of caring for orphans and widows. Of opening our home to strangers. Of clothing and feeding those who needed clothing and food. Of loving the poor. Instead, I've shown them what it means to obey God and follow Him, even when its hard, even when you mess up. I'm setting an example of confession, repentance, and forgiveness, both giving and receiving. And more recently, when my weariness and brokenness over my own failures has reached its peak, I've shown them what it is to pray constantly, to ask God for help, to thank Him for everything, and to see God answer prayer.</div>
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I have questioned this path so many times. Because its hard, because it doesn't always feel good, because it reminds me of my weakness all. the. time. There are many times where its a joy, when it feels easy, and delightful. And then there are times when it is nothing but absolute obedience to follow through on what we said we would do.</div>
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I wish I could say that I depended on the Lord constantly. The reality is though, that through this experience, I've experienced something that I haven't experienced before in my life as a Christian. There was concept that I knew to be true, but hadn't experienced in my daily life. It's this: I need him.</div>
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I need him every hour, every minute, every second.</div>
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Many, many times I did not recognize that need in the difficult moments. In the last few months, I have seen things in my own heart that make me cringe. </div>
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I need him, not because I'm a good person looking to be better. But because my heart is wicked, and I can't even be NICE without his help. I have seen the depth of my own sin, and recognize that if I want to change, there is no book on parenting, no tool I can add to my toolbox, NOTHING that I can do other than ask for his help, his grace, his wisdom, by the minute. He is the source of every good thing, and He is the one who can shapes me into something new.</div>
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My default setting is to figure things out on my own. I am begging God to change my default from independence, to dependence. I want the REALITY that I need him to permeate every moment of my life.</div>
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If you know my story at all, you know that this is a complete shift from where I was three years ago. I have recognized again how great my sin is, not in an ALL have sinned sort of way, but in an I AM THE CHIEF OF SINNERS sort of way. I've seen how deep my need for God is, but I also am encouraged to see how much God has changed my heart in the last 10 years, from one of doubt and unbelief, just hoping that God would someday take the little kernel of faith that remained in my apathetic, doubting heart, and turn it back to him. So to see this sort of change, is a very present reminder that God does this! He changes people!</div>
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This has been a big year for us. It was about a year ago that we were filling out paperwork to become foster parents. We went through the class, did the home study, and were approved. At the same time, on what I thought was a whim, Joshua started the application process to be a park ranger, which he went to college for. So about three weeks ago, after 10 months of jumping through hoops, he took a job at Lake Anna State Park, about 3 hours from here. This means big changes for our family, most of which all starts tomorrow. I start my first full time job working since becoming a mom. The kids will have a full time babysitter. Joshua will be leaving for 7 weeks of working at the park before returning home to attend the Police Academy in Salem for a few months.</div>
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Another change that will be taking place has been a really difficult one to make. As much as I've learned to persevere through our experience in foster care, we are also getting some experience with when its time to let go. Our foster children will be moving to a new home tomorrow. Since making this decision, the voices in my head are throwing doubt and guilt at me from every angle. Should we have never fostered instead of causing them to have to move again? What's going to become of them? Will they remember us? Will we ever be the same after experiencing the second-hand trauma of foster care? I wish I would have been a better mom to them in the short time I had. I made so many mistakes. What do people think? Do they think we're giving up? The list goes on and on.</div>
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All these thoughts bombarding me gives me plenty of opportunity to live in dependence on God, more opportunities to recognize my need of Him every moment, for Him to give me words of truth. Someone said recently, "Just because its hard, doesn't mean it wasn't what you should have done. It doesn't mean we heard God wrong. In fact, often it is the opposite." </div>
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From these four months, I think I'm now less likely to run away from hard things, because I know that suffering produces perseverance, perseverance, character, and character, hope. So often people have told us "I've thought about fostering, but I don't think I could handle it." Neither did we. Neither CAN we, except by the grace of God. So it is with all of life.</div>
Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-80657679556117489902014-04-30T15:53:00.000-04:002014-04-30T16:04:14.824-04:00Renewal<br />
Wow. It's been a long time since I've blogged. I could commit to blogging on a regular basis; chances are I woudn't. But this is a good outlet for me on occasion, so I'll just share what I want, when I want. Hopefully it will mean a little something to someone on occasion. What I'm sharing today is a testimony that I shared at our church's Thanksgiving Feast in 2013.<br />
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John 6 says that MANY disciples walked away from Christ. So Jesus asks Peter, "Are you going to leave me too?" Peter's reply is, "To whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. We have come to believe and to know that you are the Holy One of God."<br />
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Sometimes a person goes through a season of doubt. Doubt so deep that it shakes you to your very core. I went through a period of desert for about 6-7 years. There were many reasons for it that I could list, but I think it boiled down to a God not being who I thought He was, and a deep disappointment in my life and that it wasn't what I thought it would be. Wondering if my life actually mattered to God. Did my life have any significance? There were times during it that I truly contemplated turning away from God, and from the church. But my heart, like Peter, was saying "Where would I go? There is no other Truth for me, and if there was Truth to be found, it was in Christ!" So, I made a decision that if there was a way doubt INTO Christ, I would try.<br />
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This year has marked a very significant time in my life. A time of renewal. I can't explain it, but somehow God has made Himself known to me, and my heart was able to receive it. So the thing that I'm thankful for this year is that my heart fully belongs to the Lord.<br />
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I just want to say, if you are going through doubt or struggles in your life, please know that it's okay. We live in this lie that no one else struggles like you struggle, or feels pain like your pain, or has secrets as deep and dark as yours. It is a lie. We all have our secrets.<br />
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God's heart is big enough to hold your confusion about Him. His grace is big enough to encompass your sin. There is room at Christ's table for you, and that means there is room in the Church for you. Please don't hide your struggle to the detriment of your soul. I have to say that I hid my doubts from almost everyone for years, and it was only when I chose to share the depths of what I was going through in a very <a href="http://growinggrastys.blogspot.com/2012/08/in-which-i-overshare-no-really.html">public way</a>, everything changed. It was confession of my struggle, and also, in a very real sense it was a confession of my need for community. Community is good. Confession is good.<br />
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Lastly, God is faithful. If you are dealing with doubt or apathy like I did, you wonder if it will ever end. Maybe it won't. But God is there, and our God is one who weeps with us as we struggle. There is a book I recommend called <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Disappointment-God-Three-Questions-Aloud-ebook/dp/B000GCFDPY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1398885935&sr=8-1&keywords=disappoint+with+god">Disappointment with God</a> by Philip Yancey. It was significant for me coming out on the other side of this desert place. And one of the most significant mental realities that I came to was that, what ever it is we are so disappointed with God about, whether it be that our life has not turned out the way we expected, or that He sees the evil in the world and allows it to continue, He sees the things that break our hearts, and His heart breaks too. He is disappointed WITH us. Along with us.<br />
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He is our safe place to whom we can take the cares of the world and He will take the burden from us. We don't need to take the burdens of the world on our shoulders. Doubt TO God, not away from Him. It's okay. Confession is good. Community is good.<br />
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I know that there are many here who do life with someone in the midst of serious struggle. Please be a safe person. A safe person is one who can share in sufferings. Someone who will not give pat answers. Someone who will listen and not try to fix it. Someone who believes that your struggles are no better than your friends. Someone who trusts that God will work His grace into your friends' life in His time. Someone who will hold your friends' hand and walk with them before they can say they are on the other side.<br />
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The Lord is good. He is gracious. He is faithful. He alone has the words of Eternal Life. Blessed be the name of the Lord.<br />
<br />Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-19286664647671950782012-08-17T11:05:00.000-04:002012-08-17T11:05:01.160-04:00Why I Have No Friends*I didn't intend for such a long silence when I wrote <a href="http://growinggrastys.blogspot.com/2012/08/in-which-i-overshare-no-really.html">this post</a>, but the emotional turmoil from which it came, and the subsequent response, was overwhelming. This week, I have needed to take a rest. And let me tell you, my rest has been easy. Somehow, this turbulence that I've been dealing with has lessened. Because so many people responded. And because amazingly, God met me.<br />
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Writing does something for me. It helps me to see more clearly. Last week I wrote and edited for hours, and I began to see the foolishness of my thinking. That post was the culmination of many things over a period of days. There was a book. And someone's story that I heard. A sermon or two. And your encouragement and nods of agreement. Friday truly felt like a new beginning for me.<br />
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I want to thank you. For responding. As I read your emails, and comments, and texts, most of them made me cry. Some because of their content, but mostly because they were there. Because so many of you cared enough to respond. They have truly ministered to my soul. At first, when I would read a response and cry, Malachi would say, "Mommy set [upset]?" Then after a couple of times, he started to say, "Mommy set again?" And then he pretty much ignored it. Weeping. Just life as usual around here.<br />
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In retrospect, <strike>maybe</strike> I should have turned off the computer and Smartphone so that I could get all the crying done at once, and no disrupt my day and alarm my child quite so frequently(!)<br />
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It hasn't been all cupcakes and rainbows. I am normally a private person. I don't post Facebook statuses full of drama. I don't share my business with the world. So to put it all out there like this has been very humbling and scary for me. I am still feeling nervous about it. When I run into people, the sinking feeling I have sometimes, realizing they might have read such private thoughts, is horrifying. I feel exposed. If I'm honest, sometimes I reallyreallyreally just want to pretend it didn't happen. But that would be to look a gift horse in the mouth because this feeling, and this exposure, really is a blessing. It has been a relief to be open about it, to have conversations about it. To know that its not hidden anymore. That I'm moving forward.<br />
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I am believing again. I am having understanding that I didn't have a week ago. It doesn't feel very personal yet. I feel sort of like I'm just getting reacquainted with this God who I've been been distant from for years. But I'm taking tentative steps in the right direction. And He is meeting me there. I don't know how much I'll write about this. I really do want close friends who I can live life with. But I don't know how much I can take of feeling like I'm writing my most intimate heart and sharing it with literally anyone who wants to read it. Not everyone in this world is "safe", and it is a hard thing to share private thoughts through a blog when you wouldn't feel like you trusted them face to face. But I also know that it can be helpful, for me and for others, to read and relate to my experiences. So we'll see what ends up here.<br />
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One question I've been thinking about as I've started sharing this with people more personally, is "How did I get here? Spiritually and relationally?" Why have I been going through such a difficult struggle almost completely alone?<br />
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Spiritually, it was a progression that probably started with a book I read. There were some doubts that surfaced and no one to hash it out with. There was a church situation that totally bummed me out. There was a change from full-time ministry to a regular vocation. I wasn't sure why it all happened, and I wasn't thrilled with the way life was turning out, or how hard it was to live the ideals I thought I believed in. There were more questions and no still no one to hash it out with. And then more life. And more questions. It just seems like the questions never got answered, and resulted in more questions, until I have felt really, totally confused.<br />
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Relationally, there is a lot I could say. About how I've tried and how I haven't. I haven't shared this fully with anyone except my husband and its not always because I think other people have it all together. Sometimes it is, and I know that's a lie. It's often because I don't have relationships established to share something so personal. The place I have been in emotionally is so raw that, for me, being real is more than most people are up for at some social event. It's not that I haven't wanted to talk to someone. It's just that you all don't understand the mess that would cause. I'm a Cryer. Not a normal cryer. An ugly, puffy, red-faced cryer that is really...conspicuous. I can't just ask someone to coffee, say, and dump on them my entire history without the ugly crying. And I have a kid. So I can't just "get into it" anywhere. So, being that it doesn't <i>ever</i> seem like the appropriate place or time for all that, <i>and </i>nobody wants to be the needy new friend when the other friend hasn't shared equally, it never happens. For me to be real without it always resulting in a display of my emotional wreckage means that I have to work through the wreckage. Deal with it. Heal from it.<br />
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There are times when I have reached out and alluded to this issue in my life. Sadly, the responses I've gotten have been spiritual platitudes at worst, and at best, completely inapplicable to my situation. I've received shallow advice that is supposed to fix it in twenty-two minutes like a sitcom, and "I've been there" statements when they are comparing mountains to molehills. It's so hard to share this and not be taken seriously, that it just makes me resolve to not talk to anyone else about it.<br />
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I don't want to seem ungrateful. But where are the friends who will just listen, and not try to fix it? I can't tell you how many advice sessions I have nodded my way through when I just wanted someone to listen. Don't say much. Build my trust. And share your struggles too. No, not those ones. The real ones.<br />
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Sometimes I see people, and wish I were like them. I'm sure you do it too. Not the people who have it all together. The people who seem real. The ones who really care. The ones who are warm and open. I am not that person. But I want to be. I want to be the one who can reach out when someone clearly needs a friend, but I'm not in a place where I'm very good at it. I can make a meal, I can invite you over for dinner, but I have a really hard time getting past the surface level interaction that I really wish was out of the way. And so do they. Even when I haltingly make the first move, it is often not reciprocated with equal vulnerability.<br />
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I'm hoping this whole thing will be the start of something new in my life. A rekindled faith. And also, real friends. The kind that tell me what's really going on in their lives. The not-so-shareable stuff. And vice-versa. The kind of friends that depend on each other, and whose kids grow up together. Don't you want the same thing?<br />
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Since I wrote that life-changing post a week ago, I have had all these people reach out to me. Ask me to coffee and playdates and who knows what else. And I plan on taking pretty much everyone up on it. But I'm realizing how rehashing the same story over and over will get a little old. And I'm thinking that it would be so much better if I have a new story. Something that goes like this: I was down and out. Then I asked for help. And there you were. Now I'm not down and out anymore. Here's what God is doing in my life. What about you?<br />
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For the purposes of this post, I am using the word "friend" to mean, "intimate friend". I have friends. Don't be offended if you consider yourself my friend. The feeling is mutual, I'm sure. :o)</div>
Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-86578488865037812312012-08-14T14:26:00.001-04:002012-08-14T14:26:36.598-04:00In AbsentiaI am working on a new post, but I am just emotionally exhausted from the intensity of the last week. I can't seem to get the gumption to organize the jumble of thoughts in my head. I kind of just want to take a nap.<br />
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Here's what I learned this weekend: If you want people to read your blog, title your post something provocative. And if you want to feel loved, write a post sharing deep dark secrets and that you feel completely alone. You will soon realize that you are not.Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-38087812318982120482012-08-10T10:32:00.000-04:002012-08-10T15:07:20.771-04:00In Which I Overshare. No, Really.Sometimes things come to head in life and you have to do something about it. Today is that day for me. Perhaps its a cop-out to do it through a blog. But, I actually feel quite the opposite. I am terrified to post this, and also relieved. I have always cared what people think about me way too much. I don't want to disappoint people. But I'm going to set that aside because confession is good for the soul, and because the consequences of disappointing people are dwarfed by the consequences of remaining alone in this. And I have never been regretted being honest. So here goes...<br />
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I am hurting. I've been hurting for a really long time. There are several reasons why, and they are all doozies, including anxiety, depression and codependence. But the main reason for my hurt is a deep-rooted, overwhelming, persistent disappointment with God.<br />
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For years now, I have questioned God and his love for me. Not for anything I have done. It's not shame or a self-esteem issue. I know that the basis of God's <i>supposed</i> love, if it is real, isn't based on my actions. My problem is <i>His </i>actions. How can I trust that God loves me when he lets so many bad things happen to so many people? How can God <i>care </i>and simultaneously allow so much suffering in the world? How can He allow so much suffering in my own life? Why doesn't He<i> </i>just fix it all? So its not just His love for me that I question. It's His loving nature. His sovereignty. His desire for good in my life and the lives of others. His ability to change people. All of these things I doubt.<br />
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<i>Doubt </i>isn't really the right word. <i>Question</i><i> </i>isn't either. It would be more accurate to say I don't believe that God is love, even though I guess I know it's true. How's that for a completely weak belief in God? Believe me when I say this isn't some small, niggling, passing doubt. This doubt has been my thorn for years, and it has eaten away at the core of everything I believe in.<br />
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I still hold Biblical values as the foundation of my life, however much I doubt. But my doubts are so serious that I cannot practice more than token Christianity because, deep in my soul, I think that if it were true, things would be so, so different. In the world, and in my life. And yet, I call it doubt, because I know that it is my <i>belief</i> that is wrong, not my belief <i>system</i>, if that makes sense. In other words, I believe that if I get past this, I will not find myself an agnostic or an atheist or a Hindu. I will find renewed faith in the real Jesus, not the one that I am disillusioned with, but who He <i>really </i>is.<br />
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There have been moments of Light here and there that have kept me from completely losing faith. I truly believe these moments are from God and He is giving me crags in a rock to hold on to. I know He can handle my doubts. I'm just tired of doubting. I want so much more for my life. I want more for my family and more for my children than the picture of God I am showing them. I am a shadow of the person I was. I am tired of being stuck at this point for so long. Tired of being disappointed and the resulting apathy.<br />
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One thing this has taught me is that people are never what you see. Everyone has a past. Everyone has hidden struggles, and we often feel quite alone in them. I heard something yesterday that rang so true for me, that "we compare our inside to other people's outside". We think that no one can relate to us. It's not true. I know that most people have deep struggles that, like me, they feel alone in. The problem is bridging the gulf between our islands. Personally, I think my struggle would be less of a burden if I just had close friends who were going through it with me. But how do you get there with people you've just met? And how do you just dive in with friends you've been estranged from for years? I can't seem to figure that out. There is a Part II to this post, and that is the topic. I was hoping to post it tomorrow, but an impromptu camping trip might throw a wrench in the timing.<br />
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I actually see a light at the end of this tunnel. He does love me. And I think I'm getting to the point of really believing that again. Joshua and I have been attending Celebrate Recovery, which has been good. It keeps these struggles in my face, so I can no longer push them back for months at a time. I have such a heavy weight on me, and I want so badly for it to be gone. I'm not sure how to get there, but something is changing in me. I feel paralyzed by the fear of moving forward. Of what I will find about myself that is ugly and seems better left hidden. But in spite of that, I also feel terrified by staying where I am. It is so bad for me. It is so bad for my family. So in spite of my fear, I am writing this post to reach out.<br />
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I have this feeling that in order to move forward, I can't stay in the solitary place where I've been. So, in lieu of feeling free to share this with a friend over coffee (or better yet, having a friend that has been walking with me through this for the last seven years), I am putting it out there in this not so anonymous, but slightly less vulnerable way. To let whoever cares to know that I need your support. Your prayers. Your friendship. Feel free to reach out. I am hoping for it actually.<br />
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P.S. I know that not everyone who reads this is someone that I would choose to confide in in "real life". And that is a risk I take. But please think twice before you hit SEND. Don't preach at me, feed me platitudes, shame me, or minimize my hurts. Limit your response to that which is truly loving and helpful. Please.<br />
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AND if you feel so inclined, I would love a comment letting me know you read. Writing a post like this feels scary, and it helps to know that people are actually reading it.Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com18tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-91220079084151522972012-08-06T12:33:00.000-04:002012-08-06T12:33:33.528-04:00An Update on BreastfeedingMalachi is 26 months old now, and we are still going strong with breastfeeding. I'm so excited we've made it this far. I can't say that I had a goal in mind as far as nursing was concerned, other than I hoped to at least make it to two years. I also have thought about child-led weaning, but I have felt more comfortable with the idea that we will continue as long as <i>both </i>of us want to.<br />
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We used donor milk for almost a year, to supplement the breast milk I wasn't able to provide. But since about 15 months or so, we were able to stop that altogether. We night-weaned around 21 months, but he wasn't nursing most nights anyway at that point.<br />
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When I got pregnant, I knew that it could really effect our nursing relationship. I tried to be mentally prepared for whatever might happen, including <i>me </i>deciding I was done at some point. <span style="background-color: white;">It got uncomfortable right away, and has continued to be. Malachi has never given an indication that my milk changed taste, but it did dry up completely at some point in the last few weeks. Still, he nurses. Morning, naptime, and bedtime, and sometimes in between. At this point, I don't see him quitting because of pregnancy-related changes. If he weans, it will be because he is ready, and would have been ready anyway. And that makes me happy.</span><br />
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He has recently decided he loves cow's milk, which he previously shunned wholeheartedly. To distinguish between his two "milks", he calls one his "binka milk" (drink of milk) and the other "mama milk". Melt my heart.
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<span style="background-color: white;">So, we have a new baby coming in 4-5 months, and I am curious and excited about the possibility of tandem nursing. I'm nervous about how he'll feel about sharing. I'm looking forward to having some help with engorgement, and giving him his fill of milk again. I'm also hoping that it will give him an extra boost of immunity through the winter with a newborn in the house. </span><br />
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I'm so thankful we are still nursing. <span style="background-color: white;">He wiggles. He flails. He bites (not on purpose). He drives his truck all over me. He caresses my face. He rests his hand on my breast. He giggles. He offers milk to his toys. I love it when he stops playing and asks to nurse. He's my big boy, but he still loves his mama's milk.</span>Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-77337454700297436212012-07-26T21:53:00.000-04:002012-07-26T21:53:07.007-04:00I did it!I got my computer up and running! This was no small feat with a toddler, which is why I've been putting it off for, oh, five months now. The only reason I accomplished it today was a perfectly sick kid: sick enough to do nothing but sit around, but not sick enough that he needed me to hold him and nurse him constantly.<br />
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So, now that I'm back, I'd like to really make an effort to keep up with this blog more. Who knows if it will happen. I started this blog around the same point in my pregnancy with Malachi as I am now with Baby G. That's the boring name I'm calling this baby now, for lack of something more creative since we (for now) have decided not to find out the sex.<br />
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So I have yet to document a pregnancy from the beginning. Sorry babies! You'll just have to use your imaginations for that part! I also have not taken a single belly picture this time around. I was not great with it last time, but I'm sure I have two or three. Baby G is already getting the shaft.Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-46988610299450769962012-07-26T10:14:00.002-04:002012-07-26T10:14:28.769-04:00Checking in from OblivionOh, it's been a long time. I think about blogging all the time, but my computer has been down for the count. I'm trying hard to get it up and running again because I miss blogging. Not to mention the ease of doing my Internet-based tasks from an actual computer instead of my phone. I love my phone, but it is not great for some things.
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I probably will try it with red pepper at some point, but I was in a hurry and didn't have time to finely chop a veggie that I knew it would taste great without.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Carolina Slaw</b></div><div><b><br /></b></div><div>1 large head of cabbage, finely shredded</div><div>1 medium onion, finely chopped</div><div>2 carrots, grated</div><div><br /></div><div>Dressing:</div><div><br /></div><div>1 cup sugar</div><div>1 tsp salt</div><div>2/3 cup sunflower oil oil</div><div>1 tsp dry mustard</div><div>1 tsp celery seed</div><div>1 cup cider vinegar</div><div><br /></div><div>Combine veggies in a large bowl. For the dressing, combine remaining ingredients and whisk together. Allow a couple of minutes for the sugar to dissolve. Toss together with the vegetable mixture. Allow to marinate in the refrigerator for at least two hours.</div><div><br /></div><div>The original recipe called for regular veggie oil and sweet onion instead of red. I halved the recipe and it was enough for 6 adults. I had two helpings. There may have been some who didn't eat it though, I didn't notice. This was delicious with wings, and would be great with any sort of grilled or barbecue dish.</div><div><br /></div><div>Let me know if you use this. I would love to know what you think!</div>Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-38742974444115014952012-01-12T07:00:00.002-05:002012-01-13T07:57:27.843-05:00I Seriously Embarrassed MyselfIn my Midweek Confessions, I referred to an embarrassing moment that deserved a post of it's own. Nothing like an embarrassing story, a la <a href="http://www.melodyjoy1983.com/">Melody Aylestock</a>.<div><br /></div><div>On Monday, Joshua and I made the spur of the moment decision to start attending this class I wanted to go to. We heard about it and decided to go about an hour before we had to leave. In our rush to eat dinner, get ready and get out the door, I left a pair of nail clippers in my pants pocket. Whatever.<br /><br />Two hours later...we are in the midst of class discussion and we know no one. I feel something in my pocket and wonder what is. I pull out the clippers and start fiddling with them. The discussion gets around to me and I'm feeling chatty. In the midst of this moment, every eye on me, I reach up to scratch my head, with the same hand holding the nail clippers. And somehow the clippers get stuck in my hair, right above my ear. I'm in the middle of a sentence, but I'm getting distracted and feeling really silly. I have my hand over that spot so no one can see it yet but I'm working pretty hard to get it out without ruining my ponytail. So I say, "Um, I don't know how I did this but I just got nail clippers stuck in my hair. And Joshua's going to have to help me get them out. So I guess I'm done."<br /><br />I stand up, and Joshua helps me get it out. But of course they don't move on. They all stare silently while he tries to get it out. So I just try to awkwardly explain how it happened and why I even have nail clippers in my hand. And still no one moves on. I sit down. And there is silence. So I decide I'd better get this train back on track and picked up the discussion where I left off. Anyway, super embarrassing but funny. <div><br /></div><div>Am I the only person things like this happen to? I'm pretty sure I am. I would love to be proven wrong though? What's your embarrassing story?</div></div>Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-45126541671443905572012-01-11T10:07:00.008-05:002012-01-13T07:54:15.208-05:00I'm Back and I'm ConfessingI need to start blogging again. Malachi is 19 months old and every day, he does the darnedest things. I've got to remember them somehow. So, what better way to get back into blogging than by participating in my friend Elizabeth's blog link-up:<div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"><div style="text-align: center;"><span><u><a border="0" href="http://www.emyselfandi.com/search/label/Midweek%20Confessions" target="_blank"><img src="http://i812.photobucket.com/albums/zz49/tricia_nae/Clients/EC_midweekconfession_SidebarButton1.png" /></a></u></span></div><div><br /></div><div>Let's get started, shall we?</div><div><br /></div><div>- Joshua and I started attending Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace class this week. I admit it. We need help. Kind of embarrassing, especially since we already had a good bit of debt and paid it off once in our first 18 months of marriage. So awesome that we did not learn our lesson. Especially since its way easier to pay off debt with two incomes and no kids than on one income plus kids. Let this be a lesson to the childless!</div><div><br /></div><div>- At said class, I embarrassed myself wholly. This deserves a post of its own. Let's just say, don't carry random grooming items to church. They may end up attached to embarrassing places on your person, leaving you to sheepishly explain yourself.</div><div><br /></div><div>- We hosted our church small group in our home this weekend. We decided that we should get the toilet, vanity, and door installed in our downstairs bathroom so it would be usable during that time. We totally took on too much, and had to finish the project and clean our absolute disaster of a house by 4pm on Sunday. We ended up not going to church, and running around like crazy people until 4:04 (when the first people arrived) to finish up. Don't look in my closets. We were literally tossing piles of stuff into laundry baskets to hide in our bedroom. Um, I can't believe I'm writing this. I also was in my pajamas and didn't brush my hair until 3:55 when I got in the shower. How awful would it have been if someone got there early?</div><div><br /></div><div><div>- I have overused the word "embarrassed" in this post. I have also spelled it wrong every time. How embarassing. Thank goodness for spellcheck.</div></div><div><br /></div><div>- Sometimes when Joshua and I both want to sleep in, we shut 19-month-old Malachi in the bedroom with us and let him go crazy while we lay there and pretend to sleep through it. We give him a banana and water to eat if he gets hungry, and lift our heads and open one eye if we hear a crash. Last Saturday when we did this, he removed a drawer from the dresser, emptied it of all the clothes and sat it in, unwrapping feminine products which he later strew across the room. I also let him try to eat a menthol cough drop during this time. In my defense, I figured he would spit it out after tasting it, which was true.</div><div><br /></div><div>- Joshua and I stayed up way too late watching Breaking Bad on Netflix on Sunday night. Wayyyyy to late. I am still recovering from it. </div><div><br /></div><div><div>- Malachi is crying at my knees for me to pick him up and I'm pretty much ignoring him so I can finish this. What's worse is I'm positive that I smell a poopy diaper and I'm still ignoring him. How horrible is that? Now he is crying in earnest, and has thrown himself on the floor and is kicking. Seems like a good time to stop confessing and start paying attention to my child.</div></div></div><div><br /></div><div>Let's link of to Friday Confessional at Mamarazi, while we're at it, eh?</div><div><br /></div><div><center><a href="http://www.ourdandelionwishes.com/" target="_blank"><img src="http://i1096.photobucket.com/albums/g328/OurDandelionWishes/FridayConfessionalMamarazzi.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></center></div>Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-90139014282206029282011-07-21T16:20:00.003-04:002011-07-21T18:55:38.043-04:00Lemon Blackberry PancakesLemon Blueberry Pancakes have shown up around the Internet in a variety of places lately, and they've had me salivating. So on Sunday morning, when I realized I had extra lemon to figure out what to do with, it seemed like the perfect time to try this recipe. I would have tried Pioneer Woman's recipe, but it calls for evaporated milk, of which I had none. So I did my typical thing and smelted together some other recipes to come up with this one.<br /><br />Some recipes out there only call for lemon zest, and not the juice. In my opinion, the I added the juice of half a lemon. It probably added 2-3 tablespoons of liquid, which was perfect because the batter was a little thick. And it added a lemony flavor to the pancakes that was ah-mazing. I also used blackberries instead of blueberries because it was I had available. I'm telling you, these pancakes were the best I've ever eaten. The combination of lemon and blackberries was to die for. I'm sure it would have been at least that good with blueberries.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgUx2FRr-8ng-sBgAs2Vm6p-ZLbmQRgRUZEjM3lBRFwQmZLc3n6J29XgpaurkQmcfVIvJoSD7jLu52r2o9EpmZG2Cj5utnreiw6pYqS6x5UNx1U4EpwBufSiOFAZBdXB2-yIF_K2TPOtjFs/s1600/pancakes.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgUx2FRr-8ng-sBgAs2Vm6p-ZLbmQRgRUZEjM3lBRFwQmZLc3n6J29XgpaurkQmcfVIvJoSD7jLu52r2o9EpmZG2Cj5utnreiw6pYqS6x5UNx1U4EpwBufSiOFAZBdXB2-yIF_K2TPOtjFs/s400/pancakes.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5631942876712871250" border="0" /></a><a href="http://eatingdeliciously.blogspot.com/"><span style="font-size:78%;">photo credit</span></a><br /></div><br />Here's the recipe:<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Lemon Blackberry Pancakes</span><br /><br />1 egg<br />1 tbsp freshly grated lemon zest<br />2-3 tbsp fresh squeezed lemon<br />3/4 cup milk<br />1/4 cup loosely packed brown sugar<br />2 tbsp melted butter<br />1 cup all purpose flour<br />1 tsp baking powder<br />1/2 tsp salt<br />1 cup blackberries<br /><br />Whisk together egg, zest, lemon juice, milk, brown sugar and butter. In a separate bowl, mix together the flour, baking powder and salt. Add the milk mixture to the flour mixture and stir together just until combined. If your batter is a little dry, add more milk. I added more lemon juice to mine, just because I couldn't get enough. Stir in the blackberries.<br /><br />I like to heat my griddle to 325 degrees. But if you don't have a temperature gauge, your griddle should be hot enough for water to sizzle when you splash a few drops on it. Butter the pan, and pour in your batter. I poured about 1/4 cup at a time, and it made us about 8 pancakes.<br /><br />It took me of messy pancake making to figure out the secret of when to flip. If you are still working on it, here are a couple of tips. First, only flip once. Second, wait until the edges of the pancake seem dry, and there are bubbles in the center. Third, make sure your flipper is big enough to get most of the pancake on it.<br /><br />As soon as I tasted these pancakes, I knew I had to share this recipe. I went around to my family and made them all taste it. It is lemony, and the lemon goes perfectly with the berries. I will be making these over and over again. PLEASE try them. You will not be disappointed.Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-17312183324421505302011-07-21T12:53:00.003-04:002011-07-21T13:07:48.738-04:00Simple Beef StewDo you believe I had never made beef stew, except from crock pot roast, until yesterday? But I bought some stew beef that was on clearance a couple weeks ago. Yesterday I dug it out of the freezer and started looking for a recipe.<br /><br />Like most things I make though, I consulted a few recipes without really following any. The end result is usually something I can call my own, and I am usually very happy with it.<br /><br />I started out with a pound of stew beef sauteed in olive oil. While this browned in the soup pot, I chopped up two potatoes, an onion, two ribs of celery, and three cloves of garlic. I tossed those in the pot along with a pound of baby carrots, coated it in oil and let it warm through. I then coated it all in a 1/4 cup of flour. Once well-coated, add a four cups of beef broth to pot and bring to a boil. Add a bay leaf and a teaspoon each rosemary and thyme. Let simmer for about an hour and salt and pepper to taste.<br /><br />I was really quite happy with the way this turned out. The beef was tender, the vegetables were soft, but not overcooked. The seasoning was just right. I'll add this to be recipe box.Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-70333982813019039252011-07-19T12:06:00.003-04:002011-07-20T13:19:12.029-04:00Heirloom Tomato SaladI have a hard time taking just one thing to a potluck. For the aforementioned potluck this past Saturday night, there would be a combination of foodies and normal people. So the thing on my mind was something that both would enjoy (and something a little more grown up than jello shots: a simple heirloom tomato salad.<br /><br />I headed out to the farmer's market on Saturday morning to find a combination of colorful and flavorful tomatoes that would look and taste beautiful together in a salad. I also grabbed some fresh oregano while I was there, since mine has gone to seed.<br /><br />I basically made <a href="http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/jamie-at-home/the-mothership-tomato-salad-recipe/index.html">Jamie Oliver's Mothership Tomato Salad</a>, which lists all the ingredients, but you add them to your own taste. Here's what I did:<br /><br /><span>I started with three pounds of local heirloom tomatoes from one of farmer's markets.</span> My tomatoes resembled these lovelies.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhU-MCENnSUV3EGy0sKqTjfcT6dYl3_qRDOu-TyUNsl7GKjT04JQVpGNX77ppQ6hSHelEsroYTdaySOYDcSkYUPHpRflWAIYwU9wCOwxJxesBnTYAf1zsUeK1OKClwx0cG_nL9kH7y3Lql/s1600/toms.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 267px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhU-MCENnSUV3EGy0sKqTjfcT6dYl3_qRDOu-TyUNsl7GKjT04JQVpGNX77ppQ6hSHelEsroYTdaySOYDcSkYUPHpRflWAIYwU9wCOwxJxesBnTYAf1zsUeK1OKClwx0cG_nL9kH7y3Lql/s400/toms.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5631478581598021794" border="0" /></a><span style="font-size:78%;"><a href="http://www.cookinmiami.com/2010/08/heirloom-tomatoes.html">photo credit</a></span><br /><br /></div>As suggested, I cut them in a variety of sizes and chunks to add visual interest. I liked his suggestion of salting the tomatoes and letting them sweat out the extra liquid. I normally don't do this for my tomato salads, and there is a lot of extra juice that waters down the dressing. Of course, he says to discard the juice, but I added a bit of salt and drank it. I will not admit to the juice dribbling down my chin anywhere but here. That fresh tomato nectar was honestly the best part of making this recipe. Chef's privilege!<br /><br />I added probably 1/4 cup fresh oregano, a diced clove of garlic, 1 part balsamic vinegar to 2 parts oil (I did 1/4 cups) and salt and pepper to taste.<br /><br />I served this at room temperature, because somehow, tomatoes taste better to me that way. Like I just picked them off the vine and served them up.<br /><br />I personally felt I didn't add enough vinegar to this, but I got some good comments on it at the potluck. It was enjoyed by both the food connoisseurs and the unwashed masses. Happy day!Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-14569633083671481752011-07-19T11:40:00.008-04:002011-07-20T13:20:34.211-04:00Lemon and Lime Wedge Jello ShotsI recently joined <a href="http://pinterest.com/">Pinterest</a>, and it has given my menu planning the lift that it needed. Many of the recipes I've been making lately were either found on Pinterest, or inspired by recipes found there.<br /><br />This Saturday for a cookout, I made lime and lemon wedge jello shots. How grown up of me, I know. But how can you resist <a href="http://thatssomichelle.blogspot.com/2011/02/fancy-watermelon-jello-shooters.html"></a><span style="text-decoration: underline;"></span>such an amazing photo? It was time consuming, and in the moment I was frustrated. It didn't help that Malachi kept waking up from his nap and each time I had a mini-freak out that I wouldn't get them in the fridge in time to set. The payoff was worth it though because they were so good and they really do look just like this:<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTXcZ8zlM6EBl8FxBXQShrwKVsxgW_-BrOCpZNNn8J53SlEAQk0MDXocwg0mityTTtMZEAeXPlbcSfsaj4Q2q6UTx2WbbXB-a-yb_D5PGSc64NwUVInVO5KYMdn-iR_6h_pw0VHuKUKGp1/s1600/limes.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 267px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTXcZ8zlM6EBl8FxBXQShrwKVsxgW_-BrOCpZNNn8J53SlEAQk0MDXocwg0mityTTtMZEAeXPlbcSfsaj4Q2q6UTx2WbbXB-a-yb_D5PGSc64NwUVInVO5KYMdn-iR_6h_pw0VHuKUKGp1/s400/limes.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5631092080019373442" border="0" /></a><a href="http://thatssomichelle.blogspot.com/2011/02/fancy-watermelon-jello-shooters.html">photo credit</a></div><br />Here's the recipe I used:<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Lemon and Lemon Wedge Jello Shots</span><br /><br />Dissolve one 3 oz. packet of jello in a cup of boiling water. You can use any red flavor. I wanted to use watermelon, but they didn't have any, so I made one recipe with cherry and one with strawberry. Turn off the water and add 4 oz. Vodka and 4 oz. Sour Apple Schnapps. I let this sit while I wrangled 20 lemons and limes out of their rinds.<br /><br />For this step you cut each lemon or lime in half, then score between the fruit and the rind with a paring knife. Use a spoon to pull the fruit from the peel, being careful not to break a hole in the peel. It gets easier as you practice.<br /><br />Set the rind halves on a tray and fill each lemon or lime with the jello mixture. Let them rest for three hours in the fridge. Before serving, Cut each half in half again to make wedges.<br /><br />Stand back and listen to everyone ooh and aah over your amazing creation. These were a huge hit.Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-76156993128911246582011-07-19T11:29:00.005-04:002011-07-19T11:39:38.532-04:00To DoMy goals for today:<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Weed the garden.<span style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: bold;"> </span></span></span>Already did it. Yessssss.<span style="font-weight: bold;"><br /><br />Go to the gym.</span> I missed my chance to do it this morning, so now I <span style="font-style: italic;">must </span>go after naptime. Around 3pm.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Go to Lowes. </span>I have to re-select a countertop for our kitchen since the one we want is back ordered.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Make dinner.</span> The plan: BLTA's (Backon, Letttuce, Tomato and Avocado sandwiches). I may even decide to add an egg and chipotle aioli inspired by <a href="http://www.seasaltwithfood.com/2011/05/avocado-blt-with-fried-egg-and-chipotle.html">this</a> recipe. Side: corn on the cob.<br /><br /><span><span><strike></strike></span></span><strike><span style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Buy Malachi some new sandals. </span></span>I can't find his old ones anywhere. </strike>Found them.Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-57188103513915583402011-06-11T22:37:00.004-04:002011-06-11T22:45:27.744-04:00Toddler Milk<div>Today it crossed my mind that we've been nursing for 12 months. I am now nursing a toddler. I hope to continue much longer, so it didn't cross my mind that it is a milestone when his birthday passed a few days ago. But when I think of how hard I've worked to make it this far, I decided we need a mini-celebration.</div><div><br /></div><div>We made it through the initial weird latch / lots of pain stage. We made it through a low supply and weight checks and visits to the lactation consultant every two weeks. We made it through a visit from a concerned La Leche league leader and emergency donor milk rushed to our aide. We made it through herbs and supplements and medicine and dietary changes. We made it through pumping and pumping and pumping with no milk to show for it. We made it through the SNS and thousands of ounces of milk donations. We made it time and again, when we didnt know where our next donation would come from and I braced myself for the switch to formula. But the day never came.</div><div><br /></div><div>So thank you to the women who have made it happen. Often when I feed Malachi a bottle I will tell him what mommy his delicious milk came from.</div><div><br /></div><div>Many women in our situation don't have the resources I have to find donor milk, and don't know that there is any choice but formula. I have been connected with doulas, midwives, lactation consultants, La Leche League leaders, and most importantly, nursing moms, who have made it possible for me to choose differently.</div><div><br /></div><div>Thank you, moms, who have shared with us so generously: Kate, Rebekah, Micah, Myrna, Danielle, Sherri, Christie, Crystal, Hollie, Rachelle, Jamie, Amy, Melynda, Kristen, Jen Kirsten, Liz, and Another Liz. </div><div><br /></div><div>And thank you to Julie who helped us figure out our nursing problems and encouraged us to use donor milk; and Leila and Cindy who found us donors; and Human Milk 4 Human Babies!</div><div><br /></div><div>You all are a big part of why I am now nursing my toddler.</div>Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-25436261375803614792011-06-01T07:59:00.028-04:002011-06-02T07:12:18.175-04:00In Which I Remember The Day Malachi Was BornToday is my baby's birthday. His <span style="font-style: italic;">first </span>birthday. We were never birthday party people in my house growing up. Birthdays were special, but they were family affairs. Quiet. Simple. And I have maintained that. But in contemplating how to "do" Malachi's first birthday, I have been ever-so tempted to pull out all the stops and do something big--really big--to celebrate our boy's life. I get it now. I totally understand why parent's want to capture the moon on a silver platter for their kids' birthdays. You know: ponies, bounce houses, the works. Real Wives style.<br /><br />Because this is a day worth celebrating. This little boy's Entry Into the World was a big deal. It will forever be imprinted in our memories. He changed our lives forever and I want to make a big deal over him.<br /><br />It's just like everyone said. The moments have passed too quickly. I can't believe that one year ago he was in his last hours of slumber before deciding he was ready to come out.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjT1uP1eR8NqQvJWO6xJA7te3J0Un40FfYjW-tuwOza4nn5NYVtvXwcaDRoQ_Vs3MMy8WVPP6Tl9GBlVXtxsbAXJMqOCMZb5KQQQABnCdvQDts8hGJfOb7KwtATxUfckXWC0DigQXTSg3qP/s1600/P5230301.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 300px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjT1uP1eR8NqQvJWO6xJA7te3J0Un40FfYjW-tuwOza4nn5NYVtvXwcaDRoQ_Vs3MMy8WVPP6Tl9GBlVXtxsbAXJMqOCMZb5KQQQABnCdvQDts8hGJfOb7KwtATxUfckXWC0DigQXTSg3qP/s400/P5230301.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613505196402778466" border="0" /></a>What a surreal day. It started around four in the morning. I slept between each surge, for the first hour or two, then called the midwives. Our home was full of quiet energy. I labored in the living room while Joshua and my mom filled the birth pool.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJlAoS541d7kl0a9_zbLtvcIhMflsNH-mB9HxG33CLmOeogUjqNBBD4Lo4Lp1kjv59aZQAmgsNO82U8sTMwXiLAdOpZzzXTZUuB2IpRPLdTPjQVR9nm53vAe5I6pyjH8L2qpLLjbHeycdT/s1600/P1010245.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 225px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJlAoS541d7kl0a9_zbLtvcIhMflsNH-mB9HxG33CLmOeogUjqNBBD4Lo4Lp1kjv59aZQAmgsNO82U8sTMwXiLAdOpZzzXTZUuB2IpRPLdTPjQVR9nm53vAe5I6pyjH8L2qpLLjbHeycdT/s400/P1010245.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613498923286601042" border="0" /></a>Time passed quickly. Things progressed well. Joshua and I took a walk and with each contraction I held him and swayed. He was so supportive, just what I needed him to be. I love that when I told him "I don't know if I can do this," he said, "you <span style="font-style: italic;">are </span>doing it."<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjo6AlFNiueqY-H5CcrS9mfjed2jmTnaECoqhKBH7OhuTUHnEWiduozNAiZRypwxFvOjTpNBUa4LDZnZ_aEB5jASDUBn8UYgjULyj2Hnj1Z5oWXGHTBLFecyLvI1nDoo_jZYvQcgbwq_5p4/s1600/P1010253.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 225px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjo6AlFNiueqY-H5CcrS9mfjed2jmTnaECoqhKBH7OhuTUHnEWiduozNAiZRypwxFvOjTpNBUa4LDZnZ_aEB5jASDUBn8UYgjULyj2Hnj1Z5oWXGHTBLFecyLvI1nDoo_jZYvQcgbwq_5p4/s400/P1010253.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613498570273249090" border="0" /></a>Things are a blur, with distinct images that pop out here and there. I remember it being hard, but energizing. I knew I was doing it. I felt <span style="font-style: italic;">in charge</span>. Like I was <span style="font-style: italic;">owning</span> this moment.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDhn4KVMt5Dq9KIwx8se1Re1BCA6nBngPWYNXA7VS599ec5KhnJnL-oFCa0hi4HXvn_pNd242Io4eFplR16Ik2SR4jPP0-RdFIIAG9P_pTyi1zsBkQP2iZH0BCchyphenhyphenJ0Pi0ln2IAWRKYaqf/s1600/P1010282.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 225px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDhn4KVMt5Dq9KIwx8se1Re1BCA6nBngPWYNXA7VS599ec5KhnJnL-oFCa0hi4HXvn_pNd242Io4eFplR16Ik2SR4jPP0-RdFIIAG9P_pTyi1zsBkQP2iZH0BCchyphenhyphenJ0Pi0ln2IAWRKYaqf/s400/P1010282.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613503425706175090" border="0" /></a><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5kwAzavXvE-Mb1YAfXP_y4KCcdLmWQgmIxymh8jmhNl3FDfnvPp1ULmi4C2BVqQ-rwSeOLl5KAxuPeDaRXZ2CxLsMB8jWIjDGh29Jmsyz3B9zuMYpdJYc0TNq_RvDMD12hJxWXM5XCKg2/s1600/P1010222.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 225px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5kwAzavXvE-Mb1YAfXP_y4KCcdLmWQgmIxymh8jmhNl3FDfnvPp1ULmi4C2BVqQ-rwSeOLl5KAxuPeDaRXZ2CxLsMB8jWIjDGh29Jmsyz3B9zuMYpdJYc0TNq_RvDMD12hJxWXM5XCKg2/s400/P1010222.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613502684543316242" border="0" /></a>We looked at pictures tonight, remembering that day, and this year. I asked Joshua what stands out to him about that day. He said, "you were grumpy." Thanks for that, Love.<br /><br />I hit transition around 1:30 in the afternoon. I was dialated to nine. Alicia suggested that I take a shower because pushing would come soon. Joshua and I stood in the shower and let the water run over us. The contractions were hard and strong. We looked at each other in amazement and shared tears over this moment that was happening. We were about to meet our son. In our home. With our family and friends near.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7sLSP8rX9XLBjAP6In67fq7vLGaCt5ygNXCz3nB2eZCiQJNw5JDaBvo8y3eXfulJUByJOqXAfRRSwjdtvjnHqyu_8Hi4RyMlhLuJj2WJLVExVWkbfN7iUGXEs0UPHrEYEVjDyAiUdWSKY/s1600/P1010259.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 225px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7sLSP8rX9XLBjAP6In67fq7vLGaCt5ygNXCz3nB2eZCiQJNw5JDaBvo8y3eXfulJUByJOqXAfRRSwjdtvjnHqyu_8Hi4RyMlhLuJj2WJLVExVWkbfN7iUGXEs0UPHrEYEVjDyAiUdWSKY/s400/P1010259.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613498021454727426" border="0" /></a>I imagined that moment. <span style="font-style: italic;">I was in the water. I felt Malachi's head and I pulledJoshua's hands to feel it too. The midwife quietly said, "one more push." And with a final roar, he was born, right into Joshua's hands.</span><br /><br />But that's not what happened. Transition went on...and on...and on...<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiV4irTNC4sauogdFO2IwMrz1mkCMyzxVimE3qIPsEebh1O5sj9OqRUUe1W2UXN5iU3zIBck014dgLhKYcOGA1mR1BgSbAj6sUakPP_uROxrMqWWfxbrhM-dImYWNgzAj0v6Z93oRO-SdLM/s1600/P1010316.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 243px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiV4irTNC4sauogdFO2IwMrz1mkCMyzxVimE3qIPsEebh1O5sj9OqRUUe1W2UXN5iU3zIBck014dgLhKYcOGA1mR1BgSbAj6sUakPP_uROxrMqWWfxbrhM-dImYWNgzAj0v6Z93oRO-SdLM/s400/P1010316.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613497439224086146" border="0" /></a><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgi28vFCwwP4APk1Jv8NidW6ThrtNCrLCUCnq9nL1dna4sLTJH7JmT2BLV9A9JxQ05zdfteCruC9JYw0pmSj04UhjuEOZOdwWC9Y2TQb0ORXdFZF-zzVeJ9lIJqoAoh4QV0xHr6bbg61egB/s1600/P1010294.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 225px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgi28vFCwwP4APk1Jv8NidW6ThrtNCrLCUCnq9nL1dna4sLTJH7JmT2BLV9A9JxQ05zdfteCruC9JYw0pmSj04UhjuEOZOdwWC9Y2TQb0ORXdFZF-zzVeJ9lIJqoAoh4QV0xHr6bbg61egB/s400/P1010294.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613504508566010850" border="0" /></a>After a few more hours, several things seemed <span style="font-style: italic;">not quite right</span>. All of it combined sent us to the hospital.<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNpvp9WEJK7orE4tI4SRirA3gdXq8qbsH8OabNvMNAjQ-PKV9s9Un_fOLN-XmO9pX-HW7Ti76YaHXo34ByVJQOTvIBctt8_acMa_94M9pSRUlnz5AnE9SXhqWsqvz2CHClzAd33QNa-_OG/s1600/P1010348.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 225px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNpvp9WEJK7orE4tI4SRirA3gdXq8qbsH8OabNvMNAjQ-PKV9s9Un_fOLN-XmO9pX-HW7Ti76YaHXo34ByVJQOTvIBctt8_acMa_94M9pSRUlnz5AnE9SXhqWsqvz2CHClzAd33QNa-_OG/s400/P1010348.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613496486995855842" border="0" /></a>There were doctors. Procedures. Interventions. Medicine. Surgery.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiSDzGElxSeujSHIpMlnRXZ6-LTtKP9tVoy2LIocGNU1F0vWL57b9-Ims0rOWzWrlp4Ugm6g-PXcSaHHEJyoiBvKg5p8Q0tN3LKyXZZsgvFSTnX7vAws8pipvTyA4hpMxu5elRQ5pmHK-Uc/s1600/P1010351.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 225px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiSDzGElxSeujSHIpMlnRXZ6-LTtKP9tVoy2LIocGNU1F0vWL57b9-Ims0rOWzWrlp4Ugm6g-PXcSaHHEJyoiBvKg5p8Q0tN3LKyXZZsgvFSTnX7vAws8pipvTyA4hpMxu5elRQ5pmHK-Uc/s400/P1010351.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613494808912812002" border="0" /></a>But at the end of it all, there was a new baby.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh5OjBX4FrLFbtBV7NNO8ScuujmI_Bs7Sz54HLX9hUPSyNx3x8OtUAP2k7pSZT2Qe48zGf_m499v5mc3S9rofFKdL0_j37w3a-mfVB77lVMVXeDm3MzYV9HUaxCUkqK0iYKZ6spxHvoLXEJ/s1600/P1010489.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 225px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh5OjBX4FrLFbtBV7NNO8ScuujmI_Bs7Sz54HLX9hUPSyNx3x8OtUAP2k7pSZT2Qe48zGf_m499v5mc3S9rofFKdL0_j37w3a-mfVB77lVMVXeDm3MzYV9HUaxCUkqK0iYKZ6spxHvoLXEJ/s400/P1010489.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613493613329005634" border="0" /></a><span style="font-size:78%;">Malachi Justice Allen Grasty<br /></span></div>There were three of us.<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhegoAUIdsdIRqqppJEoWnbSscBLLOF3Y4DWbsMOgUbp0jZAOfbK-qeDNPeE3f9KwcGZoaOpWAW-PXvifxG9u7pSxlGSarxeGKAaWWeesz03pU2R5fNvp34wv5J67CpbqyFV2fdMBP48L8j/s1600/P1010403.JPG"><br /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHDamYtfT0okmIXwxuYZw_F_ymr0qfRvXWKpT5_jTSjC2vRbRxtTFLhsB4YJHZxA-kyZC68EL-mBaDGct9zry3_H4x_j7Umj11ZI0GMRFbtvLui5DIKZ-9nK7aYCcYkZZPdR_cqpQzoNlj/s1600/P1010406.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 225px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHDamYtfT0okmIXwxuYZw_F_ymr0qfRvXWKpT5_jTSjC2vRbRxtTFLhsB4YJHZxA-kyZC68EL-mBaDGct9zry3_H4x_j7Umj11ZI0GMRFbtvLui5DIKZ-9nK7aYCcYkZZPdR_cqpQzoNlj/s400/P1010406.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613493061053063490" border="0" /></a>He is so loved. Such a joy.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgPIwK00baX-U5YkB1fKFjrY2ouA3VXlyU9VzjNvylMDlALJ_LpX1BNSgf1CiIGqOfIgOST5v73MjxIVkQA2C8W2p0Icd9-tggrkIFtZHQ0W84_tCbu37o2kSzpvWGwnUwWvlK7KRB26HbY/s1600/P1010413.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 225px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgPIwK00baX-U5YkB1fKFjrY2ouA3VXlyU9VzjNvylMDlALJ_LpX1BNSgf1CiIGqOfIgOST5v73MjxIVkQA2C8W2p0Icd9-tggrkIFtZHQ0W84_tCbu37o2kSzpvWGwnUwWvlK7KRB26HbY/s400/P1010413.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613491255137525906" border="0" /></a><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjvAZ0895zk6oChq5OJe1H-Ii_4LPcxAb-_lUHzZYlGaysty-Z3PZ8gD4slKpLrIjs2Q3yJQrhKe8lrMZeUOsOomIrqNDdcym7nGkd7ARz9h0FziokZZdtzLjyopeVReTEWTbBK3IWdKcrh/s1600/PC240028.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjvAZ0895zk6oChq5OJe1H-Ii_4LPcxAb-_lUHzZYlGaysty-Z3PZ8gD4slKpLrIjs2Q3yJQrhKe8lrMZeUOsOomIrqNDdcym7nGkd7ARz9h0FziokZZdtzLjyopeVReTEWTbBK3IWdKcrh/s400/PC240028.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613492270120665698" border="0" /></a><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj0waJmqcb35xPoBJNMcrLCzJofrtpyePK88jmYLl8Qy7qOZA8unjxPcwQe4FyxwoOL8aDNTxfFnG8ORBcFa54cIi1XGdG_GDHFQRz8MrGy8NWBK5243jiBfr2iKBLwzuW7m4F7wcF3Lkqn/s1600/P4300121.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj0waJmqcb35xPoBJNMcrLCzJofrtpyePK88jmYLl8Qy7qOZA8unjxPcwQe4FyxwoOL8aDNTxfFnG8ORBcFa54cIi1XGdG_GDHFQRz8MrGy8NWBK5243jiBfr2iKBLwzuW7m4F7wcF3Lkqn/s400/P4300121.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613490739651573346" border="0" /></a><br />On second thought...<br /><br />This day is sacred to <span>us</span><span style="font-style: italic;">.</span> The day our family grew to three. The day we became parents. The day a whole new person entered the world, all our very own. It's so very...<span style="font-style: italic;">special. </span>Worth lots of <span style="font-style: italic;">italics</span> and hyperbolic language<span style="font-style: italic;">. </span>The very specialness of this day seems to me a reason <span style="font-style: italic;">not </span>to do it up big.<br /><br />His birthday is special to us because he's <span style="font-style: italic;">ours. </span>The first birthday won't be remembered by him or his little toddling "friends". Our adult friends without children would think a birthday party for a one year old is a joke. I don't want to cheapen it by inviting a bunch of people who don't care as much as we do. Not this year.<br /><br />This year, these memories feel too precious for Pin the Tail on the Donkey and party favors. There will be other years for that. This first year, we celebrate Malachi with our close family. We'll make a tradition of telling him how we wanted him and waited for him. We'll tell him about the day he was born. He will eat cake and wear a crown and we will make him feel special like we do every day. And we will remember.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwfx3iZ-uRkt52Oipqo-fkTpKuw7cWrMdG-AlMCQ80oy3t30_sxXNwoBB933cUzJZdujIQiw4pqfssIpsEBDn15i59HCUGYEAH-YckaKukrZ72-bDS2c37bxE6hfKIjkOygH2-httR-ZAL/s1600/P5220231.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwfx3iZ-uRkt52Oipqo-fkTpKuw7cWrMdG-AlMCQ80oy3t30_sxXNwoBB933cUzJZdujIQiw4pqfssIpsEBDn15i59HCUGYEAH-YckaKukrZ72-bDS2c37bxE6hfKIjkOygH2-httR-ZAL/s400/P5220231.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5613511081010079490" border="0" /></a><br />Oh, how I love him.Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-4436402185826231522011-05-16T20:46:00.001-04:002011-05-16T20:59:02.692-04:00Coming TogetherI've got a lot on my mind right now. Some things I am considering writing about but I'm not sure yet. It's good though. I feel as if there is a lot that's up in the air now with our life and it's exciting to feel like things are shifting. We've been feeling stagnant in some areas for a while and I can smell change in the air. The future seems bright.<br /><br />We closed on our house. I was really nervous that with Joshua working on the renovations in his spare time, we would never get to see him. That hasn't been true at all. Most evenings we hang with him a little and when he has a spare moment, he comes over for kisses or a quick wrestle in the grass with Malachi.<br /><br />My garden is underway. The day of our closing we put the beds into place and started filling them with soil. We've got onions, garlic, leeks, peppers, squash, cucumbers, beets, tomatoes and greens. Not to mention a whole mess of herbs that I'm still not sure where I should plant. I cut off some snippets of sage and thyme to add to our dinner this evening and it was so good.<br /><br />Our fence will be starting to go up this weekend, which means we are almost ready to get our chickens. Yay! The coop is ready for them.<br /><br />Things are coming together.<br /><br /><br /><br />Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-66699661571905733432011-04-24T16:47:00.006-04:002011-04-24T17:27:39.313-04:00My Derailed LifeYou know, it just goes to show that what's important in life is not the laundry.<br /><br />A few weeks ago, I wrote <a href="http://growinggrastys.blogspot.com/2011/03/what-i-would-do.html">a couple</a> <a href="http://growinggrastys.blogspot.com/2011/03/what-i-am-doing-and-why-i-am-doing-it.html">of posts</a> about how I was getting it together and why that was important to me and my family. I still believe everything I wrote...but then it hit the fan and I was in the hospital and I've been recuperating ever since. It's not that I can't do anything at all. I am just utterly without energy.<br /><br />You how they say, "If it's not one thing, it's another."? Well, if it's not one thing, it's another. Life has been happening this month, and it's been happening so fast that I can't take any time to keep our Life in order. I'll be darned if I've loaded the dishwasher more than once a week in the last month. Or folded the laundry before Malachi tosses it piece by piece onto the (dirty) floor, over and over again. We just started using cloth diapers again this week and I'm thinking I may have jumped the gun a little bit.<br /><br />I am at the point where, if I could just get caught up, I could stay caught up. But I just can't get there! I even had a mother's helper come over twice to watch Malachi while I cleaned. Both times, shortly after she came, things with <a href="http://growinggrastys.blogspot.com/2011/03/new-digs.html">the house</a> became so urgent that I had to stop everything I was doing and make phone calls and send faxes and scan documents and send emails and a frantic pace so the whole kaboodle didn't fall through. Good thing she was there.<br /><br />I guess what I'm trying to say is, "Oh well". Oh well if I can't keep things in order. I've been taking care of my sick-for-the-first-time baby. He sounds like a lifelong smoker with his hack that keeps him up at night. He's been napping in <a href="http://growinggrastys.blogspot.com/2011/03/babywearing-troubles-andthe-solution.html">the mei tai</a>, and we sleep sitting up for the first few hours of the night. So needless to say, I am sleep deprived.<br /><br />Oh well if I step on a block every time I turn around. I don't have time to pick them up for the 15th time today that Malachi dumped them. I'm busy calling my realtor, and my mortgage consultant, and my underwriter (and list goes on) so that we can get this house.<br /><br />Sometimes, something's gotta give. In fact, most of the time something's gotta a give. And then there are times that everything's gotta give just so that you can keep your life hanging by a thread.<br /><br />I am so looking forward to closing on Wednesday. This is our 4th scheduled closing but I think it's gonna stick this time (please, God). But I know that just starts another round of crazy-making with Joshua working on the house every spare moment, with me being an almost-single mama for the next four months. Deep breaths. it'll be over soon. And then we'll move on to the next thing. Hopefully that will include a nice long sit on our new front porch (maybe with a margarita).<br /><br />Here's a cute picture of Malachi to make us both smile.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6dp5htIDx0G6enJ9C9tV78Z9UekF47ByVgtcNp3_o422gUYIdM2sK2ZyyPkutkmFgwGM-B4gOBFsGCL_D4nfLr6Mhxl1punb27CleN0pNJmAJeR1F0lQ5FYmv0x_-qyaCVmRPyhk898uY/s1600/P3190135.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6dp5htIDx0G6enJ9C9tV78Z9UekF47ByVgtcNp3_o422gUYIdM2sK2ZyyPkutkmFgwGM-B4gOBFsGCL_D4nfLr6Mhxl1punb27CleN0pNJmAJeR1F0lQ5FYmv0x_-qyaCVmRPyhk898uY/s320/P3190135.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5599263444919667250" border="0" /></a>Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-80280960996395991202011-04-20T15:27:00.003-04:002011-04-20T15:44:28.207-04:00Long Time, No...WriteIt's been a while. It's been a crazy month. I don't think I've written at all about my gallbladder issues that started up in November of last year. We don't have insurance. And I wasn't thrilled about losing an organ. So I tried to heal my gallbladder the natural way. We found out about a month ago through an emergency out-of-state trip to the ER, that it wasn't working. A gallstone had made its way into my bile duct and was making me very, very sick. I ended up staying in the hospital for 5 days in North Carolina to have my gallbladder removed.<br /><br />So the last few weeks have been about healing. And I am feeling so much better.<br /><br />We still have not closed on our house. It has been a roller coaster of enormous magnitude getting this thing done. One of the most stressful things of my life. But, our final (I am <span style="font-style: italic;">almost</span> certain) close date is scheduled in five days, and I think the we're going to make it this time. WITH the bank. Miracle of miracles.<br /><br />Malachi is ginormous. He is growing really fast the last few weeks on lots of donor milk. My milk supply took a major hit in the days surrounding my surgery and I was afraid that our nursing days were over. BUT, this little boy loves to nurse, and he wouldn't give up, even when he wasn't getting much. He helped bring back supply and we are now back to about the level we were for several months before I was sick. Still using donor milk, but in much smaller quantities.<br /><br />So that's the big news around these parts. Oh, and, there is a new frozen yogurt place downtown called <a href="https://www.facebook.com/#%21/pages/Frogurt-Roanoke/202602036440464">Frogurt</a>. It is awesome. Let's just say its a good thing its low fat because I've been eating a lot of it lately. You need to go. Seriously. Go. I'll be here when you get back.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHSTiW1GLL_9aWi02hFhlhzSwdk_JOr18PeHEgdXBZc8xqPt0VI2Ghqwil0XZfV_X14voohwouk1dnlUY87-85U0D-pvPSpiAHcZETzXhpDcwcYYTY4h-FBUj62lZ-ObOSS5BKir2NjnmE/s1600/P3210031.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHSTiW1GLL_9aWi02hFhlhzSwdk_JOr18PeHEgdXBZc8xqPt0VI2Ghqwil0XZfV_X14voohwouk1dnlUY87-85U0D-pvPSpiAHcZETzXhpDcwcYYTY4h-FBUj62lZ-ObOSS5BKir2NjnmE/s320/P3210031.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5597753816774169010" border="0" /></a>Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-78093877624195110982011-03-25T07:00:00.001-04:002011-05-03T18:54:32.180-04:00New DigsWe are buying a house. We weren't looking to do it. It sort of just...fell in our laps. It's next door to my parents house, which happens to be where we live.<br /><br />We really want something out in the country with a good bit of land. But since we won't have that for a while (maybe never) this will do quite nicely in the mean time.<br /><br />It's a gray house with blue shutters and white trim, in the city, and it needs a lot of work. We are getting a construction loan to do the fixing up that needs to be done. If the red tape for a standard mortgage is like the Smokeys, for a construction loan, it's like the Rockies. But it is so worth the deal we are getting. It's going to be a lot of work, but in the end we will have a beautiful finished product. A brand new kitchen and downstairs bath, upgraded upstairs bath, freshly painted walls and refinished hardwood floors throughout. We don't know how long we'll be there, but it's not hard to imagine raising a family there.<br /><br />We have four months from close to get the work done, which puts us around the middle of August that we will be able to move in. In the meantime, since it's right next door, we already built our chicken tractor. We will hold off getting the actual chickens until we have a fence, which we are hoping to do right away. By that time Malachi should be starting to toddle around, and he will enjoy exploring his new digs.Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8174914216675615420.post-54187185618089630402011-03-23T07:00:00.001-04:002011-03-23T07:00:14.059-04:00Babywearing Troubles and...the SolutionFor the last few months I was a little frustrated in the baby-wearing department. Until a couple of months ago, I used a Moby almost exclusively and loved it. But then we got to a point where It just wasn't working for us. Malachi didn't nap as well in here anymore. He wasn't happy facing in when he was awake. When I put him facing out he reached for everything and the material stretched and it became unsafe. Back carries aren't safe in a Moby. I needed s new carrier.<br /><br />So I got a ring sling. Love it. But I quickly discovered that it's not right for us at this stage either. The front carry requires the legs to be in, which Malachi is not okay with. So side carry is pretty much it. And he is just to busy and feels too confined for that most of the time. You can do a back carry with a ring sling, but most people prefer other carriers for that, and its kind of tricky to get in place.<br /><br />So I came to the conclusion that the carrier for us (right now) is a mei tai. It's an Asian style carrier that you can use in front or back. It offers a lot of support and is quite versatile. The are a little pricey, and I had already spent money on the ring sling that we are more or less shelving for now.<br /><br />I wasn't sure what to do. I was thinking about making a mei tai and started researching that. Then, one awesome day, I remembered was super-productive and sent in the tag for a recalled Infantino bag sling that had been handed down to me. Lo and behold, one of the replacement options was a mei tai! Needless to say, I was stoked.<br /><br />It came in the mail within about a week, and now we are rockin' out the baby-wearing again.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgj4JzAz2u0GEbc9mCAK-tTeSmKYgjojpIDUWOK-nKfx2OdxMYI__0p9GFWqTx5K-4vA2W-YAVUgyXIDtoKn6q8Eh8JJV9ZS9ILhgZIxjg3oWyIQO9m54gpSodeZLaTIv2dMUvalDAX7jfC/s1600/P3020077.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgj4JzAz2u0GEbc9mCAK-tTeSmKYgjojpIDUWOK-nKfx2OdxMYI__0p9GFWqTx5K-4vA2W-YAVUgyXIDtoKn6q8Eh8JJV9ZS9ILhgZIxjg3oWyIQO9m54gpSodeZLaTIv2dMUvalDAX7jfC/s320/P3020077.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5586571753327998402" border="0" /></a><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaqCZIS9QUB7q1H0JCrnpkiEHrjR6_1Kenq5zi6aNkBQm471e4mqrR7roJuR52GrdkfI6K7Y7WW8kEDijQG9wBtT935wJ6-jhRrTURO4OFNwbqHA9JzWbd-W7jfJV1wDl-9d7aQV-h6q5u/s1600/P3130115.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaqCZIS9QUB7q1H0JCrnpkiEHrjR6_1Kenq5zi6aNkBQm471e4mqrR7roJuR52GrdkfI6K7Y7WW8kEDijQG9wBtT935wJ6-jhRrTURO4OFNwbqHA9JzWbd-W7jfJV1wDl-9d7aQV-h6q5u/s320/P3130115.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5586573671053309954" border="0" /></a><span style="font-size:78%;">(Don't worry. I moved him to a front carry right after taking the photo. </span><span style="font-size:78%;"><br />Isn't it cute, though? He obviously is comfy enough to fall asleep!)</span><br /></div>Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00549225749777249825noreply@blogger.com7